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As Catholics, we believe that Mary was conceived without sin (the Immaculate Conception) and that Jesus was sinless. Joseph was a regular person like the rest of us. Still, living in a family is hard at times, whether your family is ⅔ sinless or not. When people live in close quarters, and there is stress about food, housing, travel, childcare, and extended family (“who was supposed to be watching Jesus, anyway?”), it’s normal for frustration and impatience to flare. Factor in a budding teenager who is pushing for greater independence and parents who don’t fully understand their son and you have a story like we hear today.
Mary and Joseph’s feelings of anxiety and guilt at the end of their journey - and their frustration with Jesus after they found him - weren’t sinful. Neither was Jesus’ exasperated response, which he very well may have delivered with an eye-roll:
“Did you not know that I must be in my Father’s house?” After all, Jesus was fully human, and he had to go through the same process of growing up as any child does. He wasn’t born knowing how to walk or talk. His parents had to teach him his manners and ask him to help with chores. Just like he would have experienced the “terrible twos,” he had to go through puberty with all it’s complexities and identity conflicts. It’s no wonder, then, that at the end of a long family trip with a 12-year-old, the “holy family” had a “regular family” moment.
Questions of the week
What stands out for you most in this Gospel passage? Why?
As Christians, we believe that Jesus was both fully human and fully divine. Does this story of the 12-year-old Jesus emphasize his humanity or divinity more for you? Which do you tend to relate to more when you think of him and pray to him?